September 1 2020"
Strength Together, a virtual program facilitated by 'LOKOPAKAR' youth organization has achieved to provide a space and platform for each individual (especially girls and young women) to share their views, opinions, perspectives, experiences, even their issues and find solutions to them.
Our moderator for the session was Miss.Rosy Karna, Psy.D candidate at Stanford University with a specialization in Clinical psychology.
We started with sharing our topic on different kinds of relationships that we have in our lives.
Our first speaker started her story sharing how she was not by herself and was at her lowest. She really sought friends help but rather she was blamed for not being or going out with them. This made her realize how her feelings or how she was not taken as important in the group. Due to this particular reason she mentions she shut herself down for more than 3 months. She feels because of this incident she has been able to find friends who are really there for her. Even those memories brings back sadness it has helped her know relationship boundaries and categorize her friends
Our second speakers talk about her relationship with her friends. She mentions how she has always ended up making friends in a short time and also moving on with new one friends as she changes the environment. She gets really close with people really fast but until now she has faced many people who have turned back on her. And when things get a bit out of hand she avoids the conversation and shuts herself. All of this makes her question herself if she is the reason for all this kind of relationship. She has now taken time for herself to reflect on this kind of relationship.
Our third speaker talks about how she has always been frank and has always made friends. She has a lot of friends but she recalls that she never had someone as a best friend. She has always been kind and has always loved to help others when they are in need. But she has always been taken for granted by everyone which really hurts her
Our other speaker shares about how she has a really really close relationship with her mother. Her mother has been more like her friend. Up until now she has always been sharing all the details with her mother. Now she is in a relationship which her mother is well aware about. Her mother has started doubting and questioning her. She told us she felt really bad even though she has mentioned everything to her mother still questions in a dubious way.
It was one of the most interactive sessions we had. Here are a few tips our moderator gave us:
- Every low point teaches you something.
- Create a healthy boundary.
- Healing and acceptance is important.
- Self care is important ( Journaling )
- Give space to your partner
- We cannot control others but we can control yourself.
- Focus on common ground rather than differences.
- Confront the conversation.
- Be an active listener.
- Communication is the key of relationship
We really got to learn a lot of things from this session and got to know that we cannot erase memories totally. But we can change the meaning of the experience we had. It really feels great to learn new things with every session passed. After all the past sessions, I've come to realize that there is really great strength in togetHERness.
It was a fruitful session as always. We are really grateful to Rosy ma'am who created a great environment for the family. It was a great session indeed.
Written by- Barsha Tamang (LOKOPAKAR)
Edited by - Aastha Shrestha (Cohort Coordinator)
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